Citadel's Blog
- 03/23/2024
- 03/23/2024
- 03/07/2024
- 02/23/24
I know the reason a lot of people do this is due to the need to feel respected and cared for by society, but this tends to fall into 'respectability politics' that were rather popular (and still are, frankly) in the LGBT community (in terms of wanting to be respected by cis + straight people), but truthfully, I don't believe that cis people will ever just 'respect' trans people, and it's a pointless battle to fight! To me, there's absolutely zero point in trying to fit into a society that has proven time and time again that they simply don't want us part of it. Have fun with it. Embrace weird shit! As far back as I can remember (which isn't a lot but that's a different story) I've always been 'othered' by basically everything, and I've never fit in anywhere due to a number of reasons. I never had the 'aha' moment when I realized I was trans, it just kind of seeped in eventually, and I've noticed I never had the 'force myself to be normal to hide it' because truly, I was never normal LOL so I do see where people come from in terms of wanting to be respected, but I've never been respected :shrug: in basically anything I do or communities I've been a part of. I've been on T for nearly two years now (wow!) and throughout the process I've been able to look inwardly and realize that like, most of this shit is pointless and/or stupid. I'd rather have fun with myself than hope and pray that a cis person would respect me on the basic level. tbh
This is also why I've embraced it/it's pronouns more now than I did (nearly) two years ago. I don't believe that I should hide shit about myself to appease others, and since I'm othered already due to a NUMBER of things, I'd rather embrace that fact and not try to fit in like everyone else. Like genuinely I've never fit in anywhere so why not make my own little corner of fun? I fit under the transmasc label more than the trans man label now anyways (even though I vastly prefer the term transsexual for myself) and I still do try to 'pass' (however you see that) irl but online? little coyote guy. Online no one knows you're a weird beast behind the screen
Remember. Trans joy will be far more powerful than trans pain. We have enough already man be happy be weird forever and ever
- 02/22/24
I've been INCREDIBLY busy with work and such throughout these past few months and I've unfortunately been unable to work on my site like I want to, I haven't been drawing a lot lately anymore either, still feeling a bit of burnout and overall low energy. I got majorly sick a few weeks ago that knocked me out hardcore :sob: I had to leave work early one day after praying for the sudafed and excedrin to work, and alas, they didn't. I've been taking care of all our animals (especially our chickens! They've been doing good throughout the winter + suddenly started laying a lot more lately.)
A dear friend of mine got me into Gundam, and they linked me the first three movies of the 0079 series, and I genuinely loved it so much, I bought two gunpla to build :) They're pretty basic ones but good ones to learn how to build them, and it was really fun! This hobby is so dangerous for me. But my dear friends are helping me. Same friend spoke to me about their theory about newtypes in the series being a metaphor for the autistic or trans experience and I'm like ahhh... yes.... (pondering)
- 01/07/24
- 12/11/23
^ me in my friends suit Mayday! Alongside some friends :)
Honestly, it was probably one of the best experiences I've ever had, especially since I was finally able to meet up with my closest friends for the past few years. I took the train into Chicago since I really didn't want to drive in and deal with traffic. We all pitched in for the hotel and it was fairly cheap :) I had such a blast and I have to become a weirder furry than I already am. I saw the bimbo suits and they were so nice!!!! I've heard the suits weigh about 40 pounds due to all of the padding. It's hard work to be a bimbo o7
^ All of the suits that we brought! I didn't wear the sergal outside of the hotel room given how poor his vision was and how uncomfortable his head is. He's currently for sale at the time I write this, I hope someone can bring him new life! [edit: he was sold back in January! Very happy]
I absolutely loved being able to be as weird as I wanted at the con and not having to worry about people looking at me weird :D I was able to be such a weird transsexual for the weekend and I am still feeling the post con depression, even though it was over a week ago! I absolutely need to go to more furry cons, I'm planning on going to TFF with friends as well this coming march! :D
- 10/21/23
- I've been busy with a lot of things lately + still really burnt out with creating for a while now, I've not really been drawing at all as of late. I'm planning on doing NaNoWriMo this year, though! I've been itching to write the second book for my one universe for a while now. I started it last year for last years NaNo but never finished it due to college. I've dropped out now due to money concerns (and not to mention that the college experience in the US is for profit anyways and they don't quite care about you actually learning anything). I'm going to a convention and meeting up with some long time friends in November though! Very excited. I haven't been working on my site much due to the lack of drive, but hopefully by the end of the year I'm able to get back into the groove of things, especially with updating certain parts like the oc profiles.
- 09/10/23
I saw a few more bands live again, and I'm going to see a few more in the upcoming month and a half. I've been trying to steadily collect my silly cds along these concerts but for whatever reason some haven't really shown up yet, and I'm kind of bummed. I bought the With Promises of Death album by BRIGHTER DEATH NOW and it hasnt shown up yet and it's been quite a while since I first purchased it. I suppose shipping from Europe hasn't really improved, but here's to hoping!
- 07/30/23
I won't get too personal here but I have been switching up things in my life that needed to be changed and it's been leaving me feeling like a husk of a man most of the time. My medications are fucking me up again and I upped them recently since I noticed the very large plateau in my mood and they honestly made it worse. I love the healthcare system I love the mental health system surely this will do nothing but good in the long run (lying).
I finally saw a band live that I've been wanting to for years since they were seemingly allergic to my area for a good chunk of years, and I've met some cool people at concerts. I've finally come to the conclusion that I do in fact enjoy talking to people but deep down I still really don't like most I come across. I need my me time and it's hard to explain that I do in fact need human interaction and being able to talk about things while also not being able to stand most people I come across in my day to day life and I really don't see the good in people for the most part. I still consider myself an 'extroverted misanthrope' since it's basically the best way I've seen to explain how I feel.
- 06/06/23
It's pride month, and that means I think about my identity a lot. I've come to love being 'unlabeled' for the most part. (I don't mean this in the way that a lot of people do, since I was made aware there was an unlabeled pride flag...? Which honestly defeats the purpose bc now you're using it AS a label you know. you feel me) I honestly could not care less about labels other than being trans, and even then that's still very much an umbrella term. I don't care about microlabels (and honestly feel that a lot of them can be damaging) and if I started speaking about my feelings on my sexuality and gender I have a deep feeling someone would go "well, that sounds like [x]!" and I just can't bring myself to care. Since I finally accepted the "apathy towards any label because honestly who gives a shit" I've become more open with my sexuality in terms of figuring myself out. Testosterone has done so much for me (and had um. the effects) and I've become more welcoming to being that one weird furry guy and I feel way happier. I live under the idea that I've just GOT to get weirder in everything I do and understanding myself with my gender and sexuality has helped quite a lot. yippee
- 06/01/23
I finished A Clockwork Orange a few days ago, and I really quite enjoyed the book. I previously saw the Stanley Kubrick film a few years ago, and part of me understands why he decided to not um. Put any of the political commentary of the book into the film (given the fact that it was released in the 70's where it was frowned upon (and it still is today) to critique the government in hollywood) and given that the entire point of the book was "Ultraviolence is ok only if we're (the police, government) are doing it to the right people" sort of deal, but I still can't help but be dissapointed in this. The entire second half of the book is literally just fully commentary on the government and class issues in Britian at the time and the movie just... left it all out. Overall, I really really enjoyed the book. I believe that good art and good commentary is supposed to make you feel emotions while you read (and in this case, disgust at both the government and Alex's actions) and if it isn't doing that, I think it needs to be improved. I think the book did a fantastic job at being subtle (though, some of it was supposed to be subtext that basically just turned into just. Regular text, such as Dim becoming a militant after Alex gets arrested and jailed.) and still holds up to this day. I read the British version specifically, since the american version of the book cuts out the entire final chapter, for whatever reason. If you were to experience this story, I'd suggest reading the british version of the book before anything else. The movie is a fantastic film, both in delivery and cinematography (though, I am really not a fan of Kubrick in general, given what happened on the Shining film set.), and, while it is a hard watch at times, (especially during the ultraviolence sections), I still think that it's a solid film.
- 05/23/23
Some stations made specific goodbye messages to everyone watching the channel, while some just simply shut it off without even saying goodbye. The ones that didn't say goodbye to me feel like someone who put down the animal without even saying anything and walking away, while the ones saying goodbye. True care and love came from the stations who gave them proper sendoffs and thanked all the people still watching analog for sticking around so long and seeing them off.
To me, giving a proper sendoff for an analog frequency that's been in use for over 50 years seems right. It's all about giving them (the frequencies) a peaceful and kind ending to their run when most of the world has already given up and forgotten about them.
- 05/05/23
Other than that, I've officially finished my first year of college. I'm not quite the fan of any of it, really. I'm not going back to the college I went to this past year due to the fact that it costs WAY too much money. I'm going to go to a CC instead for the time being. Getting my car really helped get over this first lump in my plan and I can finally work to getting my lisence :D
- 04/22/23
I've been looking at a lot of different collection sites (mostly to get images for my wishlist) and I've got to say that I still believe they look incredibly same-y. Same top bar, same everything. I can't blame a lot of them though, since Weebly and wix are (fine) website builders and easy for people who don't know how to code to make websites but still. I know mine doesn't look the best either but I want to keep it really simple for the most part. Have an image of the figure/plush/whatever, date released, and creator, and a small blurb. I've been rethinking how I collect as well, since getting my absol wishlist took a little over 5 hours of work to finish (straight). I finished one of my finals for this semester and immediately started working on the site, and it made me realize just how many figures and other assorted goods I was missing! I have basically all the plush besides a few tagged vs untagged ones, and the one that doesn't release for another week or so. This hobby is a huge money sink, but I'm sadly a completionist when it comes to these things. (I even found some random absol merch that I wasn't even aware existed!) And I may start looking at my collection differently. I won't ever stop collecting as far as I'm aware because I have the natural urge to collect small items and trinkets, but as a broke college student I don't really have that many options.
Speaking of collection sites and collectors, I ventured onto LiveJournal for the first time in many years. My mother had one and used it until they sold the company and I've gotta say, the website is nearly unusable. I have adblockers and other things running in the bg of my firefox browser and even then I get MASSIVE banner ads among a bunch of other things, and while I understand that the LiveJournal group was one of the original collectors groups for sales/auctions/whatnot I can't help but think that there's a time to give up the ghost. The website got worse after they sold it (and the fact that they sell your data, too.) and there are other avenues to do this sort of thing! God just stop using LiveJournal the website sucks ass
- 04/12/23
I've gone to a few good concerts recently and I was finally able to really add a bunch of CDs for my collection, and I even got some that weren't released yet :-) I haven't listened to half of them yet since I do want to review them, but still!
- 04/02/23
I finally downloaded (a lot of) the music I bought off of bandcamp and shoved them into my music app on my computer. I'm still not done but I think this is a good start so far. The program I use is (suprisingly) super easy to configure and add files to the player. Though for whatever reason whenever I scan the folder for new files it repeats the Killer's Notebook file and the Revenge of Dr Q. I thought it could have been due to those not being in folders of their own (When I first started downloading all of it I removed them from the folder they were in for whatever reason) but it doesn't do the same for the other albums I have in there that don't have a folder. It's quite interesting and doesn't bother me enough to fix
- 03/24/23
On one hand, I really hate 'webcore' people. All the ones I've met through my years online are younger than me and have never touched the OS or even used the things they like in a day to day light. A lot of them have eyestrain-y, bright, and flashy codes on websites (such as toyhou.se) that really bother me. I'm not super photosensitive, but if someone who doesn't have photosensitivites gets eyestrain/headaches from your website or code... maybe look for a different one? Or make it more accessable. I know my site could be considered "eyestrain" because it's a black background with white text, but it's the easiest for me to read given my issues with reading. I don't want my site to be considered 'webcore' because I made it with my own personality and characteristics in mind, and a small piece of me will be left with this site if I ever do die or move on with my life. I personally really don't like the "-core"-ification of the internet as well, but that tends to be a deep rabbit hole that I won't get into here. I've been surrounded by 'geeks' growing up (ie people who just really like computers or just general geek-y interests, and I've seen the old internet for what it was. I've spoken to people who were on the old web during my free time and all have basically said the same thing- "It was great, but had (very glaring issues)", simular to the internet today. It's a different landscape now, but still ripe with the same issues it had nearly 30 years ago. Sites like Livejournal (in their peak) were great places to share writing and keep in touch with friends and even family, but it was sold off to a different company which sold users data. But Livejournal was probably the biggest place for drama amongst users in many different areas, so it seems like time will always be a flat circle when it comes to drama, people, and the internet. I've seen others say "well if you like the old net, why don't you do this (thing?)" (for example, mp3 files instead of streaming services. I personally use mp3s a lot (some of my favorite albums are only available though the artist's website since they were removed from bandcamp and I refuse to listen to music on youtube because of how crunchy it can get).
On the other hand, I think creativity knows no bounds. While a lot of people will simply imput things into a builder or template (hell, the first iteration of this site was from an internet website template I found that someone created, and some of the bones of the website builder I used for the current iteration can still be found, but I made a point to make it my own work.) most people will be incredibly creative. If someone would want to make a site that looks like it came from 1999 with shitty html and all, why should you care? How would you be able to tell if it's 'mining' for nostalgia or just how the webmaster envisioned it? (Though, I would make sure my site was readable first and foremost.) The internet and life as a whole welcomes people who are incredibly creative, and even if you don't do it for anyone else besides yourself, you're still creating something. Though, I don't find myself interested in a lot of other things people are. I saw an argument that not everyone needs a personal website, and I would agree, but it leads down a road of self doubt in if you're "interesting" or "good" enough to have a personal website.
I've been thinking about myself a lot lately, especially how I see others in my life and how I see myself. I'm not an extrovert, (because I hate people), nor an introvert (I get very lonely). I've been told that I'm somewhat of an extroverted misanthrope, and I'm starting to identify with that 'label'. I crave being friends with people, though I have no tolerance for stupid people, or people who don't respect me. I don't like going through that process of figuring out if someone would be a good friend (let alone romantic partner), only to figure out that they're insufferable behind closed doors. I've been told I come off as not caring about most social cues (since I am a flavor of "neurodivergent") which is in part true, since some of this shit is dumb as all hell, but it seems to have put a crack in my personal life. Lots to think about. Humans are social animals at their core, and many positives come from having a good network of people surrounding you who truly care about you, but it seems that it's hard to come by. I'm in college currently and have yet to make any true, good connections with anyone. It is, in all honesty, kind of my fault, in a way. That's something to unpack later, I think.
- 03/23/23
- 03/22/23